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Discover the trait likeable people are known for. Your college and career success depends on it.

In all of the 3 semesters Linda had been at school, she’d chosen classes that had “a bunch of jerks” in them. Hmmmm. . . Imagine that. In a year and a half of school, in meeting hundreds of people, Linda keeps running in to jerks.

Are there jerks at school? Of course, name a school that doesn’t have them. However, what’s up with Linda that she keeps finding them? Is she a jerk magnet?

Well, that could be the problem. Here’s some tough love. We see the world not as it is, but as we are. I don’t think Linda has had Psychology 101 yet, or she would have gotten this lesson.

We need to be the person we want to attract. Linda needs to lighten up and to become more aware of how she’s coming across to people. And, with respect, I told her so. We actually ended up spending some time together chatting more about this.

Let me give you an important insight and share with you: THE TRAIT LIKEABLE PEOPLE ARE KNOWN FOR.

Don’t you find it easy to approach and make friends with people who have a happy, upbeat attitude? Those who have something nice to say, who smile, and who are genuinely interested in what other people have to say?

Nothing attracts people more than being a positive person who sincerely enjoys the company of other people. Study after study tells us that the most important factor that goes into determining how successful you will be is how well you get along with people.

Happy people who like being around others and enjoy listening to them (more than making the conversation all about them) are likely to rise to the top of the success ladder and to stay there.

Look for the best in yourself, in your circumstances, and in others. You will find it.

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